“Fix It Jesus” Blog 4
The mantle of a Kingdom Wife
Hey there…….Me again! How’s it going today? I pray all is well with you. Before I get into today’s reading, I want to ask you about your thoughts and feedback. Have these posts been helping you? Are you applying them to your everyday life and daily walk with God? Understand that in order to see any type of change in our situations, we must be consistent even when we have yet to see the results we desire to achieve. I didn’t think I was going to go here but here we go……time to let the Holy Spirit move. Our worst enemy is our inner me. The things we tell ourselves. Believe it or not, we can be our own worst critic. What are you telling yourself? If you find yourself constantly in a rut or beating yourself up from time to time, get out of that place. The enemy lurks there. If you’ve read my previous posts, I talked about how he studies you. That means you’re giving him the playbook to what triggers you, gets you down or pulls you away from the ways of God. I still have that battle within, but then I quickly remind myself I Am Not who my feelings and emotions say I am. Talk to yourself if you have must. Start journaling affirmations. Jot them down as notes in your phone. What I’m trying to say is, start making healthy habits in how you deal with yourself. We want others to treat us well but how are you treating you?
Ok, so now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, I wanna dive into the mantle of a Kingdom Wife. The benefits of being a Kingdom Wife. Even the responsibilities. Yes, ladies…….we too have responsibilities as a wife. God expects from us just like He has expectations from our husbands. I’m actually excited about writing this post because this is my mantle and calling. It’s something I’m not only passionate about, but I live it daily. I learn and apply. I’m growing and maturing in the role God has for me. I’m not saying being a wife is my only responsibility but it plays a crucial role not only in my home for our family but also the families and marriages that are in need of a Godly example to follow. Pick up a copy of my first book, “Pray And Obey” if you haven’t already done so. (Shameless Plug LOL) I talk about how I thought God was after my marriage but it was my heart that He wanted. You’ll have to read if for yourself. And if you already have, read it again. You know sometimes we see new things that we didn’t see before when we go back.
Nowadays, everyone has relationship goals based on what they see or don’t see on social media. Look at all the celebrity divorces. It’s publicized and too many people are thinking if they aren’t happy then neither am I. Don’t fall for it!! I’m not saying these couples aren’t or are happy. What I’m saying is that a picture or a post can make anyone look a certain way opposite of how they truly feel behind the scenes. Satan has been after our marriages since the beginning in Genesis. He hates the covenant of God and what our unions stand for. Power and authority!!!!
Believe it nor not, you marriage not only has a responsibility but it also holds rank in the Kingdom. Rank in the spiritual realm. I can only speak from my personal experience, but I was the first in our marriage to accept my calling. In doing so, I began to realize that through saving and delivering my husband, God was going to use me. My husband is a part of my assignment. I’ve been anointed to cover him. God said it was not good for man to be alone. Hence the reason He created Eve. Remember, Eve was a help mate to Adam in the Bible. When you say “I Do“ in marriage, you are saying I also agree to HELP my husband meet the expectations that God has for him. I guess in some marriages God may use the husband first or for those who aren’t married yet, God may be working on them both before the joining together. Marriage is not for everyone. Whatever situation you find yourself in, know that God has a plan for you too.
Ladies, we are to intercede and cover our husbands in prayer. Although the husbands are the head of the households, God will often use the wife as the seer. We are the ones who can see what’s ahead and what’s coming. God gives us wisdom and a nurturing anointing for our homes. Now, I’m not saying this is something you automatically have. This is what you get when you spend time in the presence of the Lord and allow Him to train, mold and use you for His glory. This takes time!! Read that part again. We want the role but how many of us are willing to go through the process to have the outcome that God promised us?
When God opens your spiritual eyes, you will begin to see things that your husband cannot. God will give you strategies to relay to your husband for you BOTH to carry out with His grace. This is why keeping God first is a must for a successful marriage. After all, it is God who created marriages. I would think He knows best but too many of us leave Him at the altar after we say “I Do!”, then quickly call or Him when all Hell breaks loose (myself included) There is an order and structure in marriage but it’s only achieved when we do it God’s way.
The enemy does not want your husband to have sight because he understands that once he does, your husband will then discover his calling and purpose in life. The devil knows the power of a Kingdom man and woman, let alone them Together. The Bible says that one of us can put a thousand to flight but two can put ten thousand to flight. This is why when the enemy is wrecking havoc in your home. God doesn’t need two willing participants in a marriage. He only needs one. Do you understand how powerful that is? If you allow God to work through you first, He can and will use you as a channel and vessel to turn your husband’s heart towards Him too. Yes we all have free will but if God can have the heart of one, He can turn the heart of the other. This is the type of info Satan does not want us to know.
One surrendered spouse can turn the heart of a wayward spouse with God’s help. I’m not saying this will happen overnight, but if you trust God and His timing, you’d be amazed at what He can do. Ladies, this means doing it HIS WAY, and not getting in the way. God will let you know when your help or assistance is needed and He’ll always let you know when to have a seat and let Him move! I’ve been told by the Holy Spirit take several seats, especially when I thought God wasn’t moving fast enough. I know I’m not the only one. Sitting back watching when nothing seems to be happening is hard. But this is when we must keep our faith and trust in God. The enemy will highlight all the things your husband is not doing to get you distracted and off course from what God is doing. God will even show you what He is doing behind the scenes.
Our marriages belong to God. Our husbands belong to God. But when God can trust you as a good and faithful steward, He will entrust you with your husband’s broken heart. Loving a broken version of your spouse is not easy but God will strengthen and equip you to love him the right way in his time of need. This takes sacrifice and much patience!!! Your husband will not always be 100. There will be times when you feel as if you have to carry his cross for him. Just like God gives us the grace when we are to endure our personal season of brokenness, He will grace you to do the same while your husband is enduring his. He will heal your husband through you and your obedience. You can have insight for an upcoming attack on your spouse. Or maybe God will just allow you to feel in the spirit what it is they are currently going through and dealing with. Staying sensitive to the Holy Spirit is important. My husband may look as if all is well and say everything is fine but if I notice my mood shifts when I’m around him or my spirit feels down, I immediately ask God what I’m feeling and why. Sometimes what you are feeling is not random. You never know……your answer may be in how you feel to know that something is going on. It’s paying attention to the little things and the details. We must keep our ears close to God’s mouth. Again, He is trusting you with your husband’s season of suffering.
God will grace you to cover them and your marriage in prayer. The power of intercession! That may not stop the attack, but you will have strategy on how to move in the attack. These are all benefits of being a Kingdom Wife but only given to those who God can use. No one is off limits. You just have to ask yourself if you are willing to give up control and do it God’s way. Hell does not want you to know the power that takes place when you and God move together. If you partner with the Holy Spirit, your marriage will be unstoppable! I have so much more to share about the mantle and benefits of a Kingdom Wife but I will stop here and continue for another time.
I hope you enjoyed this as much as I did. Remember that when we want to see the results of what God promised us, the key is to do it His way and not our own. Yes that will take time but remember, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD!
Jesus FIXED it!
